Happiness (Part 1)

Happiness is a choice. I have a wooden placard on the bottom of my entertainment center with that exact statement engraved on it. Although life can throw situations at us that cause uncontrollable unhappiness, for the most part, I truly do think happiness lies in our own hands.sunflower stuffed toy

I’ve mentioned before that I battle with social anxiety disorder. It’s something that has definitely been a root cause of unhappiness for me for many years. (A few blogs down the road, I will go into more details about my social anxiety). I try to be a positive guy, but sometimes it is hard. It’s been a struggle for me to stay positive over the last few years. I’ve dealt with breakups, dead end low-paying jobs, broken music dreams, and a job layoff…all on top of struggling with overall self-confidence. Things could have been worse; I won’t deny that. There are people out there facing hardships that I couldn’t even begin to imagine, but that still doesn’t discredit my own struggles. What’s a minor nuisance to one person, can be a major difficulty to someone else. So, I never judge people in regards to their struggles. You never really know how hard internally it may be for a person to cope with something.

Surprisingly though, despite all the distress I’ve felt over the past few years, I still sincerely believe there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. I don’t know where this light is coming from, but I swear I can faintly see it.

I feel lost many times. I’m in school now, and I’m proud to be educating myself and working towards a new career. Still though, sometimes I question my decision to go back to college. I wonder….did I choose the right major? Did I make a mistake taking out student loans? Will I get a good job? Can I really stick with this for four years? Why am I putting so much work into this instead of music? Should I just drop out and go be a truck driver? Will my parents be proud of me? These are questions I sincerely ask myself. I literally have to be my own shrink sometimes, when my mind starts thinking too much.

I have a dream I’m trying to fulfill though, and I’m trying my best not to let myself get off track. I really have a number of dreams. The overall dream though is to build a solid foundation for myself, and I honestly don’t think I can get it without some sort of education. I want to build a life of happiness.

Happiness…that word means different things to different people. Personally, I don’t think there’s one thing that makes a person happy. Happiness comes from a variety of things. To be truly happy, one has to be happy emotionally and financially as well happy in one’s career and relationships including family, friends, your significant other, and most importantly, the relationship with yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll never allow yourself to receive happiness in all the other areas of your life. I know this all too well.

Anyhow, I could write forever on the topic of happiness. In fact, we might have to make this blog into a mini series. This is part 1. I’ll continue with part 2 either next week or in a few blogs from now 😉

Do yall have any thoughts on this thus far? What makes you happy? Do you think happiness is a choice? Toddley wants to know 🙂

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That Pesky Face Weight

Across from the foot of my bed is a wavy-shaped, full-length mirror. It leans up against the wall, and every morning I’m looking back at myself as soon as I get up. I always find it interesting to see myself 1st thing in the morning in all my natural, unshowered glory. I glare at the mirror and study what I see, paying particular attention to my tummy and pecs. However, the area that catches my attention the most is my face. Not because I like to stare into my own eyes, but because that seems to be one area with some of the most stubborn fat. If you’ve ever had weight issues, then you know what I’m talking about.

Face Weight….yes, the chunky cheeks that come along with weight gain. That pesky face weight annoys me to no end. I’ve certainly gained weight over the last 3 years, although not to an unhealthy level thankfully. With all the constant traveling and sitting my last job required, weight gain was bound to happen to me. Honestly, I don’t totally mind my weight increase because I was too slim for a long time. However, I seem to gain weight disproportionately. I get bigger in my stomach, butt, and face yet nothing happens in my arms, leg, or feet. It’s so odd.

Now, I can deal with a gut. In fact, sometimes I like being pudgier. Who doesn’t love a dadbod??? (Not familiar with the dadbod…check out this article on Odyssey). However, I can’t get with the face weight. Yes…I know it’s what’s inside that counts, and I should be happy with myself regardless of my size, but I gotta keep it real. I’m just not all about that face bass :-/ No matter how much I’d like to convince myself.

Wikihow actually has a whole article on how to lose weight in your face. They even provide actual facial exercises. The exercises are quite amusing. For instance, there’s an exercise where you say the letters ‘X’ and ‘O’ over and over again. I tried it too. Can’t say I’m confident it will help, but what’s a few minutes of feeling and looking ridiculous if it’s gonna tone those cheeks 🙂

It’s funny because my sister recently told me that my face looked slimmer in a recent selfie I took. I appreciated the compliment, however I did confess to her that these cheeks are still very much full. I’ve just learned how to work the camera. Lol. After about 8-10 snapshots, there’s usually at least one that flatters the face.

You know Wikihow also said that alcohol consumption can cause facial puffiness. Maybe that’s my culprit. Hmmmm…..cut out wine or live with a puffy face???? I guess I better get used to face weight. Lol!!

Do you wish you could lose some weight in your face? What are your thoughts on face weight? Toddley wants to know!